Filipino families are deeply rooted in traditions and beliefs that have been passed down through generations. Concepts like utang na loob and the bayanihan spirit reflect the strong familial ties that make these customs seem unquestionable. In Philippine culture, family serves as the foundation of one’s values and beliefs. However, as modernization shapes society, perspectives continue to evolve. While inclusivity and acceptance of the LGBTQ+ community grow, many Filipino families still hold onto conservative beliefs— not inherently wrong, but ones that may impact their children in various ways.

 

For many LGBTQ+ individuals, family expectations are often rooted in traditional gender roles and heteronormative values, making it difficult for them to embrace their true identities. Beyond the household, LGBTQ+ students also face discrimination and bullying from those around them, further complicating their experiences. As a result, they struggle to reconcile their identity with the deeply ingrained traditions and beliefs imposed by both their families and society. 

 

Living in a conservative family can cause more problems than just the rules and limitations. It affects an individual’s mental and emotional health. Growing up in a family where traditional values and strict expectations are important, they may feel repressed or unsure of themselves. This is especially true for people who have different views or identities from what their family expects. They may struggle to accept who they really are because they feel pressure to fit into family norms. This can lead to feelings of anxiety, sadness, or low self-esteem (Wilson & Cariola, 2019).

 

The emotional weight of such family expectations often forces people to hide their true selves–leaving them feeling lonely and confused (Ruvio & Belk, 2013). They might focus so much on trying to fit in that they lose sight of their own identity and start questioning their worth. These struggles can lower their self-esteem and make them feel like they only matter if they meet their family’s expectations, rather than finding value in their own personal achievements.

 

Even with these challenges, many people find ways to cope. They seek support from friends or other communities where they can feel accepted. Over time, some individuals begin to embrace who they are, not by meeting their family's expectations, but by being true to themselves. Although it is a difficult process, learning to accept yourself in the face of family pressure can ultimately make you stronger and more confident in your identity.

 

Many families hold on to strong traditions, but these values can sometimes make it hard for individuals, especially LGBTQ+ children, to feel accepted for who they are. These challenges can affect their emotional health, as they may feel pressured to hide their true selves. However, as society progresses, it is important for families to embrace diversity and inclusivity. By doing so, children can grow up in an environment where they feel supported and confident in expressing who they truly are. This not only empowers them but also contributes to a more compassionate and inclusive society where everyone feels valued and respected.